Empowering Birth Partners: Doula Support Throughout Labor & Delivery

Doulas for birth Partners

More often than not when we think of doulas we think of them supporting mothers. While this is true, doulas also can be an incredible support for birth partners as well. Birth can be an incredible experience and a doula can help ensure this is true for both the mother and birth partner. A birth partner is a huge support for mothers so this means they may need support as well. Doulas can provide support emotionally, physically, and mentally as well. 

Simple Reminders

A few simple ways doulas can provide support to a birth partner is simply reminding them to eat and drink. Occasionally birth can be long and the proper nutrition and hydration can give a birth partner the energy they need. A partner may be uncomfortable leaving mom alone but the doula can be there to ensure mom is supported while they step away to eat. 

Positive Affirmations

We often hear of mothers using positive affirmations at birth, well guess what? Doulas can provide these positive affirmations for Dad as well. Gentle reminders can help them stay focused and relieve any anxiety or stress they may be experiencing. Birth can be unpredictable and it is often reassuring for birth partners to know they have a doula to support them as well. Simple reminders that they are doing great can be empowering for both mom and dad.

COmmunication

Having a doula you are comfortable and familiar with is so important for both the mother and birth partner. If the partner does not feel supported by the doula, they may be hesitant to lean on the doula when truly needed. Ensuring there is open and honest communication between all parties is important. Having a supportive and involved birth partner can be incredibly important. While birth may come with ease to some, there can also be some anxiety and stress for others. Knowing you have a doula on your side and that has your back can lead to a positive experience for everyone involved.

POsitive Experiences

Research has shown that the most positive birth experiences for fathers were ones where they had continuous support from a doula or a midwife. “In the McGrath and Kennell study, the women and their partners who had a doula overwhelmingly rated the support of their doula as positive—with 93% rating their experience with the doula as very positive, and 7% as positive.” (Dekker, 2024) Doulas are a great resource for mom and dad. They can provide information and answer questions to both mom and dad as needed. Partners may not always be able to attend appointments with providers but often are able to attend prenatal appointments with doulas. Since they are more often able to meet with doulas they can be provided with education as well as information on how to effectively advocate for the mother. Knowing what to ask and say can be important as sometimes the mother may not be able to speak for herself.

Working Together

Before you hire your doula, chat with your partner and see how they can also feel the most supported by your doula. Ask your partner to attend consultations and prenatals with you. Ask your doula if they are able to schedule prenatals when your partner is available. Having open lines of communication between everyone can be beyond helpful and ease any stressors.  

*This is not medical advice, if you are seeking medical advice please consult a trusted healthcare provider

References:

Dekker, R. (2024, April 21). Evidence on: Doulas. Evidence Based Birth®. https://evidencebasedbirth.com/the-evidence-for-doulas/