Navigating the holidays with a newborn: Tips for celebrating joyfully and mindfully

The holidays become truly magical with a newborn baby. Enjoying the festivities of the season can be such a joy, however it can be a bit daunting to ensure your baby’s safety. Every mother will have different preferences for the baby so remember to do what works best for you and your family. Depending on your stage in motherhood you may be recovering as well from the birth of your baby.

Gatherings

There are always many party’s, activities and celebrations that we participate in during the holiday season. If you are uncomfortable with the gathering simply decline the invite. Most will understand so don’t feel guilty protecting your family. If you still wish to bring your baby to the gathering, you may be wondering how to go about it the best way. One of my favorite ways to celebrate safely with a baby is baby wearing. Not only does this keep your baby safe and protected, it is actually very beneficial for them. You can easily decline unwanted kisses and hands on baby. If you need a break, your partner or trusted family member can also baby wear! If you do have baby out and being held, toss some hand sanitizer in the diaper bag so you or your partner can quickly sanitize your hands before holding baby.

Schedules

Luckily, most newborns have a fairly flexible schedule as they currently sleep a lot. If you are attending a holiday celebration you can ensure baby is fed and ready to rest in the car before leaving. Car naps can be true gems from the newborn to toddler stage! Don’t stress if your baby’s schedule changes, they are quick to adapt and every few weeks will have a schedule change naturally. Remember to give yourself grace with this!

Setting Boundaries & Prioritizing Baby

I am sure we all have that one relative or friend that crosses some boundaries for us. Most do not have ill intentions and just forget or don’t understand. If you are having troubles with boundaries, take a deep breathe, it’ll all work out. If you are a new mom, it may be hard to say “no” at first but after a few times you will get the hang of it. If someone asks something and it makes you uncomfortable, simply say “no thank you, unfortunately that makes me uncomfortable right now”. Most will understand when you are clear and polite with how you feel. Your baby is your top concern and ensuring their safety requires you to follow your motherly instincts. If the baby needs to nap so you leave an event early, simply explain this and leave. It may be hard at first but after you get more comfortable, it will come with time. If someone gets upset, most of the time they come around in a short amount of time as they realize they crossed a boundary for you.

Traditions

This is a favorite of mine, I love a good holiday tradition. When your baby is a newborn you may want to start some of your own family traditions or introduce your baby to current ones. Here are some fun ideas for your family!

-Cut down Christmas tree together

-Salt dough ornaments

-Bake cookies

-Drive to look at Christmas lights

-Christmas PJ’s

-Special book on Christmas eve

-Decorating the day after Thanksgiving

-Special place for Christmas Eve/Day

-Volunteer

-Secret Santa Exchanges 

Remember this is a joyful time, celebrate how you’d like. Every family changes and evolves, you and your baby will with time as well. Soak in the baby snuggles and try to just enjoy life in the moment. Every year it will become more magical as your little one grows and changes. At the end of the day - follow your intuition. The saying “mothers know best” is truly perfect. You know your baby best and will not only protect them but ensure they have a happy holiday season!